Recently an advice columnist I read regularly suggested that a letter writer learn the practice of freudenfreude. It was the first time I’d seen the word.

As best as I can determine, freudenfreude is a relatively new term combining two German words: freuden (of joy) and freude (joy). It means taking joy in the successes and good fortunes of others.

It’s essentially the opposite of schadenfreude, which is a German term that’s been around for centuries that refers to taking pleasure in the misfortune of others.

On an intellectual level, you’d think this doesn’t need a lot of discussion. Freudenfreude is good and schadenfreude isn’t.

But, of course, it’s not that simple.

When the coworker who has tormented you for years finally gets fired, it’s hard not to experience at least some pleasure because they’ve finally gotten what they deserve. And when that same coworker snags the job of your dreams, feeling happy for them is probably way down on your list of emotions.

Avoiding schadenfreude and practicing freudenfreude takes a conscious effort, but it’s worth it.

Feeling joy boosts your immune system, fights stress and pain, promotes a healthier lifestyle, and supports longevity. So why not expand your feelings of joy by embracing freudenfreude?

Make the joyful feelings of others your own.

Jacquelyn Lynn
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